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Teen Defiance and Authority Therapy in Santa Monica & Los Angeles
Some degree of pushing back against parental authority is a normal and healthy part of adolescent development — it is how teenagers begin to establish their own identity and independence. But when defiance becomes persistent, intense, or damaging to the family relationship, it is a sign that something deeper needs to be understood and addressed.
Dr. Sally Hackman, PhD, MFT, has been helping teenagers and their families navigate authority conflicts in Santa Monica and the greater Los Angeles area for over 35 years. She works with both the teenager and the parents — understanding each person’s perspective, identifying the patterns and dynamics driving the conflict, and helping the family find a way forward that respects both the teenager’s developmental needs and the parents’ appropriate authority.
Defiance and non-compliance in teenagers are almost always communication — a signal that something is not working, whether in the family dynamic, the teenager’s emotional life, or both. Therapy with Dr. Hackman begins with understanding what that signal is saying.
Key Points
Understanding What Defiance Is Really Saying.
Empowering Resilience
Dr. Hackman helps teenagers develop the emotional regulation, communication skills, and self-awareness to express their needs and navigate authority without destructive conflict — skills that serve them throughout adult life.
Healing Space
A private, non-judgmental space where both the teenager's perspective and the parents' perspective are genuinely heard — in person in Santa Monica or via Zoom — creating the conditions for real understanding rather than further entrenchment.
Transformative Support
Dr. Hackman works with the teenager in individual sessions and provides parallel parent consultations — helping parents understand what is driving their teen's behavior and adjust their approach in ways that reduce conflict and rebuild connection.
OUR COMMITMENT TO YOU
Your Family's Wellbeing Is Our Priority.
Authority conflicts between teenagers and parents are painful for everyone involved — and they can escalate in ways that damage the parent-child relationship significantly if left unaddressed. Early therapeutic intervention helps families navigate this period without lasting harm to their connection.
Dr. Hackman’s approach is never to take sides. Her goal is to help everyone in the family feel understood — and to help the family system function in a way that supports the teenager’s healthy development while maintaining appropriate parental boundaries.
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FAQ
Common Questions
Questioning rules, asserting independence, and occasional conflict with parents are normal parts of adolescence. When defiance is constant, escalating, affecting school or peer relationships, or involving significant risk-taking behaviors, professional support is appropriate.
This is very common with authority-related difficulties. Dr. Hackman recommends starting with a parent consultation, which gives parents tools to engage their teenager more effectively — and often creates the opening for the teenager to become willing to attend. The free first session policy reduces resistance for many teens.
No — that is not how effective therapy works. Dr. Hackman helps the teenager understand themselves and communicate more effectively, and helps parents understand their teenager and respond in ways that are more likely to work. The goal is a family dynamic where authority and connection coexist — not simple compliance.
Yes — defiance and non-compliance are sometimes symptoms of anxiety, depression, ADHD, or trauma rather than straightforward oppositional behavior. A proper assessment is important to understand what is driving the behavior before determining the right approach.