About Growing Apart
Reconnection Therapy for Couples in Santa Monica & Los Angeles
Many couples don’t drift apart dramatically they drift quietly. Life gets busy, intimacy fades, and the connection that once felt effortless starts to feel like something you have to remember to tend to. By the time couples seek help for growing apart, they often describe feeling like roommates rather than partners.
Dr. Sally Hackman, PhD, MFT, helps couples in Santa Monica and Los Angeles rediscover the connection that brought them together — and build a closeness that is more conscious, more honest, and more durable than the one they started with.
Signs You've Grown Apart
Growing apart rarely announces itself. It shows up in small, easy-to-miss ways:
Conversations have become logistical schedules, kids, chores with little left over for anything deeper
You spend time together but feel more alone than when you’re apart
Physical affection has quietly faded
You’ve stopped sharing the small, ordinary parts of your day
One or both of you have started building a life that doesn’t fully include the other separate friend groups, separate interests, separate evenings
You’re not fighting. You’re just not really together anymore, either
None of this means the relationship is over. It usually means the relationship has been running on autopilot, and it’s time to bring intention back into it.
Key Points
Rediscovering Each Other.
Empowering Resilience
Understand the gradual patterns of withdrawal, busyness, and emotional distance and develop the skills and habits that sustain intimacy over the long term.
Healing Space
Sessions provide protected time and space to focus on the relationship something that often gets crowded out by the demands of daily life.
Transformative Support
Dr. Hackman helps couples explore what they want from the relationship now not just what they once had and build toward a connection that fits who they both are today.
OUR COMMITMENT TO YOU
Your Relationship Matters.
Connection is not something that either exists or doesn’t it is something that can be rebuilt, deepened, and actively tended. Many couples find that the reconnection they achieve in therapy is richer and more intentional than anything they experienced before.
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FAQ
Common Questions
Yes — it is extremely common, especially during busy life phases, after major transitions, or in the aftermath of conflict or disappointment. It does not mean the relationship is over; it means it needs attention.
Sometimes growing apart reflects genuine changes in who each person is and what they want. Therapy helps couples explore this honestly — and make informed, respectful decisions, whether that means renewed commitment or a thoughtful uncoupling.
The absence of conflict isn't the same as closeness. If you're coexisting more than truly connecting sharing logistics but not much else that's worth paying attention to, even without any arguments.
No. Many couples come to therapy after years of gradual distance, not just recent drift. Long-standing patterns take more consistent work to shift, but they're absolutely still workable.
That's common, and still a valid reason to start therapy. Often, one partner names the disconnection before the other fully recognizes it — sessions can help both partners get on the same page about what's happening.